A fashion girl’s life is not easy. Dressing up every day to look good and trendy, but careless and cool at the same time is a challenge. Not that this question would be the biggest in life, but still. Somebody – like me – cares, and others don’t give a sh.t. Instead, they probably care with other completely nonsense/stupid/unnecessary things. From our respective, right? And that’s fine, until everybody minds his/her own business.
I won’t start on how much I care with fashion, and I won’t even start on social expectations about looking good all the time no matter what. We all know these things. Instead, I’m gonna cut to the cheese, sharing my ever growing experience about dressing up quite fast (and without the ubiquitous question), and feeling good at the same time.
So getting through in the world of fashion is not easy. First of all, you have to find your style, make some money, and build up an immaculate wardrobe with all the good balance. Then you have to follow trends, pick your favorites (which go with your style), and buy new things, while ditching the old and not so trendy anymore, but yet not classic ones. And I haven’t even mentioned weight gain/drop and different phases in our life, like expecting a child, changing career or moving to a totally different country.
Brands don’t make it easy either. The supply is huge and they keep saying you need this and that. Because you’re worth it. Because it makes you nicer, more intelligent, slimmer, taller, trendy and unique. Which is a total contradiction. If I buy what everybody else does, then how on earth would I be unique? And this is the million dollar question.
Yes, I know, I’ve started from Adam and Eve, but we’re getting there, I promise. Because we just cannot dress up in the morning – without hesitation at least – if we don’t know ourselves, our style, our limits, and don’t resist the marketing machine. Of course, if you’re 20, you probably don’t know these things yet. But that’s fine, that’s time right time to gain experience and figure out what makes you happy and true to yourself.
1, Finding your style and building a good (basic) wardrobe
So first things first: Know yourself! Listen to yourself. Be conscious what you’re wearing all the time and do a huge decluttering. Get rid off everything which is too big, too small, or just you don’t feel it. But keep some of the basic things which you may need in the future, for example a black suit for formal occasions, or that chic LBD or a nice blazer, oh, or from the other side of the spectrum, those denim shorts which are still perfect for tropical vacations.
I’m 30 years old, so I know one thing or two about myself. I won’t lie, I bought a lot of things which eventually ended up on eBay and I made some mistakes too, moreover I’m still doing some, but then again that’s fine, because it was a part of my big experiment to learn my style. But the most important lesson that I learned is being stylish is better than being trendy. Style always must come first!
- Firstly, I’m way too practical, if I cannot wear something -weather/occasion/physical limits are all important factors, I don’t even buy it. Heels which can be barely walked or teeny tiny going out tops, which can be used only once, or useless bags with a dark infinite space inside are just useless and waste of money in my eyes. So what for?
- Secondly, something got broken in me long ago, I guess, because I don’t really have a girly side. I cannot dress like a ‘proper’ woman, I just cannot feel good. If I buy something girly, it has to have the potential to dress it down with my already existing pieces. And I may like girly things on others, but that’s a whole different story and maybe the hardest to separate.
- Thirdly, I can’t stand chaos around me. Maybe that’s just an OCD, but still, I cannot work well in a messy environment. And that’s true for my clothes too. I like minimalism, simple basics, good quality, neutral colors, but once in a while I try to expand it a bit with a pop of color or a different fit or just different styling.
- Fourthly, the money factor. I learned early that money is not growing on trees, so I have to pay attention. I have a budget what I can use. I don’t use credit cards and never overspend my budget. Also, there’s an automatic mechanism in my head which tells me which things are worth to buy. If I love something and all the other rules apply too, then I’m gonna buy it.
- Fifthly the quality factor. I learned in years that quality overrules quantity. I rather spend more and buy something which lasts longer. Not everything has to be pricey though. A simple pure cotton tee is a cotton tee no matter the brand. But when it comes to basics and/or accessories it’s better to have less but spend on them a bit more (but still within budget of course). The result – money wise – will be the same anyway.
- Then the body type. It’s not easy to accept but we’re not perfect. Nobody is perfect, but we can easily learn what suits our body types. I’m short and have a rather big hip and booty compared to my waist size, which I may or may not accentuate, but surely brands are not prepared to. So when I wanna buy new things (especially bottoms), I have to try them on. I have tolerance for smaller issues, like the waist line is not 100% perfect until it’s comfy everywhere else. But I cannot tolerate way too tight things anymore. I have to be comfortable which leads back to the first point.
- And last but not least: making mistakes and the ability to learn from them, I try to learn from my previous mistakes, I don’t success every time though. I really like the idea of white pants, but I can’t use them. So it’s like I buy and then selling them without wearing them once. So then again, what for?
These are the rules which I apply when I’m buying new things. If any of them is a bit problematic, it’s not worth to buy. I also noticed, that if I think too much about something, probably I won’t need it. It must be a love at first sight!
2, Getting dressed
If you have your own rules, then you’re almost there, because you have a wardrobe filled with things, you adore and suit you. Maybe not everything’s trendy but it doesn’t have to be. Remember, if everything is trendy, then nothing is trendy. Good basics and classics are everything.
Consider the mood. Having a good base, it’s time to decide what to wear. For me the first and most important factor is my mood. If it’s rainy and gloomy, probably I’m gonna reach for my basics, like black skinnies, comfortable shoes, like sneakers, a white tee and leather jacket. These things work all the time, and I feel myself good without thinking.
And the weather. If you’re like me, then the weather and your mood is connected, if not, just look outside, consider what the your app on your phone says. I won’t push this it even further as I think it’s pretty obvious.
Have a starting point. A single item which you can build the whole look around. There are times, when you got something new which wanna be worn all the time. 🙂 If this is the case, start from there. Play with everything you have. If not, well, it’s interesting but for me it’s always the shoes. Probably because I’m a big fan of shoes and uncomfortable footwear can ruin my whole day. If you know, you will be walking a lot, wear sneakers. If you will be walking a lot, but need to be more formal, wear loafers or ballerinas. If you have an occasion where you just have to bright wear those stilettos. Then again, consider all of these things with the rest of the pieces.
Think in combos, aka uniforms. I like wearing my blue jeans with loafers, or my sneakers with my skinnies. Or my blue jeans with something tighter on the top and my skinny jeans with something looser. Also, I have some rules that I consider, while I’m getting dressed. The rules which make me looking taller for example. It’s all about balance and feeling good in your own skin and clothes. Figure it out what works for you.
Think in colors. I believe, that the best basics are neutral which in my case means black white and maybe some grey. These go with everything and anything so yet again, good starting points. If colors, then choose the ones, which suit you in every way. When it comes to pick up colors, usually I opt for black or blue bottoms and black or white tops. However, nowadays I have some red and green too. I like to wear them as a top or outerwear because I adore these colors and they suit my complexion well. Check out what colors suit you!
Accessorize! Everything is better with the right and preferably good quality accessories. You have your shoes and clothes. Now put on a nice or edgy belt, some jewelry and a scarf or hat perhaps. Finally choose your bag. Again consider what you’ll be doing all day. Need a tote or just something small? Or juts want to make your outfit more summery? Chose the right accessories but remember that less is more.
It may seem a lot, and we just can’t save the effort. But believe me, if you consider these things, it’ll be easier and easier and the result is all worth it because eventually you’re gonna feel yourself better which is the number one thing to looking good. 🙂
Are you struggling in the mornings? Or do you have a tried and good tactic? What’s that?