Building a closet should be the easiest thing. You like something, you try it, buy it, put it in your closet and wear it joyfully and repetitively. But it’s not. Most of women’ problem is the good known ‘I have nothing to wear’. I can hear guys moaning: it’s one of the first world’s problems which we women create for ourselves. And honestly, I can get that because that’s somewhere the most hurtful true. It’s easy for you boys (or most of you). You don’t really care or not this much as we (or most of us) do.
Sometimes I wish I’d be careless like boys, like my husband. Not just here but on other fields of life too. But that’s a different story and would drive us far far away. :). So why do I care? Why do I make my life apparently more difficult? Because I think dressing is self-expression, an art if you will, like listening to music or making a picture or cooking something nice. Or it’s an armor which can defend you, where you are comfortable in. Either way it’s useful. You can use your creativity or give yourself more motivation or self-esteem. Or both. Personally I need both. There, I said it.
So dressing is important (for me at least) and we’re back to the topic. It should be easy and joyful but sometimes it’s just not. Because I care so there are tons of questions in my head. Does it fit my body? Does it fit my style? Do I really need it? Or I just want it because… dunno? Is it worth the price? Can I afford? What I’m gonna wear it with? Do I like it at all?
I’m 30 years old who likes thinking about the big things of life and have some experience and some consciousness now. Usually I do what I like what I want or what I need. And I’m not gonna lie, building your style/closet takes time. However, I have some tips and tricks in my pocket which I’m gonna share with you.
- First of all: be conscious. Be aware of the above questions and do not avoid them. That’s the first step. Don’t buy something just because you have some time to spend or want to fix your mood. You can feel good for hours sure but it doesn’t solve anything.
- Be aware what’s inside your closet already. Keep it tidy and organized. Select those things which you don’t wear anymore. It could be very useful. You can learn what items you wanted but never or rarely wore. Figure it out what was the issue and try to avoid it next time. Also, probably you have your favorites what you wear constantly. Again think trough why those things are on high rotation. For example I told you about these cashmere jumpers here and here. Why would I wear something else when these are sooo fluffy?
- Know your limits. Yeah, dirty financial things. It’s obvious that you have to pay your rent/utility bills/mortgage/food/child care first. But there’s one more thing too which I was learning for long years. I needed/wanted something and I couldn’t get it out of my head. However, I didn’t have the money, so I bought something similar but cheaper. But it wasn’t the same why I adored the original thing, so I bought another similar thing (then another). I never got fully satisfied but I spent the money (or more) which I could spend on the original thing. If you really-really want something but don’t have any money ATM start saving for it. But keep it real, determine how much saving worths for you.
- Know what kind of investments worth the money and/or time for you. For me these things usually are shoes, bags and watches. Things which you can wear over and over again. Also good quality accessories could elevate the simplest outfit to the next level.
- Give yourself some time to think about your wish. You know, making difference between I need it and I wanna have it. It’s not easy but worth it. You should sleep on it at least one night or just bond the buying to something (an anniversary or getting the next salary or full moons, anything what works for you). If you stop thinking about it you probably don’t need it.
- Make a plan/list before shopping. I always have ideas what I want but I keep an eye on new trends as well. Usually I know what would work for me (and this will lead us to the next point in a minute). So I check the offers of my favorite stores and keep the list in mind.
- Check it personally (if you can). Big stores know how to sell things. They can make their things desirable but looking, touching, smelling, trying could do all the difference.
- Don’t want to buy and wear every trend what’s huge right now or because everybody else is wearing it or you saw somebody who made it work. Again think about it, imagine yourself with those things. If you can’t stand the temptation or just want to experiment a bit, just keep it simple. You can experiment with tiny details, colors, cuts and accessories too.
- Be aware of your body type. What are your advantages and disadvantages? Nobody’s perfect but somebody learned how to accentuate her advantages and hide her disadvantages. Here is a pretty good guide: shopyourshape.com/body-shapes/
- Learn the tricks. If you know what’s your body shape, learn tricks and start to experiment with them. There are thousands ways how you can draw attention to your best assets and hiding the least advantageous ones. You can learn from the internet and/or play with your existent pieces in your closet.
- If you already bought it but you’re not sure. Well… I think that’s a sign already. If you don’t plan to wear something right away or in the next few days probably you never will. Reserve the receipt so if you changed your mind you could return it, like how I did with
mythese granny shoes.
That’s all folks. Phew…that’s a lot. I have to admit it seems scary at first but I can tell you all of these thing will be automatic in time. Actually, I wasn’t aware I pay attention all of these things and had to think about them fore a while. 🙂 I hope you can find helpful and useful tips there and feel free to write to me if you have better tips or tricks.